Try not to take everything personally, things that people say and do don’t always have anything to do with you.
Every once in a while, I read Daily Om. They are Pearl’s of Wisdom that you can have sent to your email every day. They’re short enough (typically three paragraphs) that I can take a minute or two break from whatever I’m doing to read them. The best part is that more often than not, they relate well to something that is going on in my life at that time. It’s like someone knew that that is exactly what I needed to read at that moment. Pretty cool stuff.
This following Daily Om reminds me of something I read in The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. It’s a quick read and definitely worth your time. Here’s the passage:
Every time you interact with others, you have the choice to listen to, acknowledge, and let go of their words, or you can take what they are saying personally. Taking things personally is often the result of perceiving a person’s actions or words as an affront or slight. In order to take something personally, you must read negative intent in an individual’s words or actions. But what people do and say has no bearing upon you and is usually based on their own experiences, emotions, and perceptions. If you attempt to take what they do or say personally, you may end up feeling hurt without reason.
If you are tempted to take a comment or action personally, creating some distance between yourself and the other person can help you. Try to determine what is at the root of your feelings. Ask yourself if the other person’s words or actions are just reinforcing some insecurity within you or if you can really be sure that an offense was intended. You may even want to ask them what they meant. Finally, put yourself in the other person’s shoes. Instead of taking their words as the truth, or as a personal affront, remember that whatever was said or done is based on their opinion and is more reflective of what is going on inside of them, rather than having anything to do with you. You may have been an easy target for someone having a bad day, and their comments may have been offered with no ill intentions.
When you recognize that what anyone says or does doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with you, you will no longer feel hurt or attacked. While it’s easy to take things personally, you should never let anyone’s perceptions or actions affect how you see yourself or your worth. Your life is personal to you, and it is up to you to influence your own value and sense of well-being.